Dear Pani Rose,

So it sound like things are a bit better now?

How are *you* feeling physically/health wise now that all the stress has subsided a bit? I pray that you are feeling a bit better.

May the good and merciful Lord keep you well--because we love you and He loves you!

In Christ's love,
Alice

Prayers...

BLessed is our God, "gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love", now and always and unto ages of ages, Amen.

Thank you! I was just standing looking at a crucifix, saying to Christ, you are so merciful! then I had to say, I guess I was not very merciful with my dad today was I? I asked thequestion, but know the answer. JESUS HELP!

He let them get to his other checking account after I Harped about his not closing off all his checks! Then I have been looking for assisted living, I have found the perfect place, well as close as perfect as I am going to get for him, and he was mad because it will take him too long to get to the hospital. Then the only room they have open isa studio apt, but he would be onthe waiting list for a regular apt. And wanted nothingto do with it! I may be bald from pulling all my hair out soon. I mean they even have an aquatic athritis program! He told me this morning he was ready to move and wantedto do it as soon as possible. Grumble! Grumble! Grumble!

God please show me what to do for him!

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I think that, together with prayer, you have to make the decision you think is best, and don't get detracted by grumbles, which are inevitable. You shouldn't expect someone your father's age to be agreeable. This is as hard for him as it is for you, dear sister in Christ. Expect that one day he may be agreeable and the next day he won't. He is human(aren't we all kind of like that!) and it must be so very hard to be old.

Have your children (and/or any siblings you may have) help you and give their opinions too, and stand united. Then whatever it is, ask for God's blessings and your priest's blessing...In all things we should ask for blessing...and make sure that you take care of yourself and your health!

Lord, please enlighten and guide Pani Rose, and give her physical and emotional strength at this time of need. Amen.

Prayers for my dear sister and friend, that she persevere and that she be able to relax and accept that, in time, all will resolve. Give peace, too, O Lord, to her Dad. Let him be enlightened to come to the realization of what is best for him and that his daughter and grandchildren are striving to achieve that for him. Give him the foresight to understand and accept what will be best for him in these late years of his life, that he may live them out in peace, comfort, protection, and the love of his family.

God, "gracious and merciful, slow to anger...."cantus of the Lenten season for Lutherans. We sing that verse preceding the Gospel at the Eucharist; and as an antiphon before and after the Magnificatand Benedictus at the Prayer Offices.

I find it a proper counterbalance to the Prayer of St. Ephrem, which I pray at least once each day.

Thank you for wise council that is what I was hopping for. When I saw Thomas's post yesterday after my own conversation with Jesus I knew I was going about it the wrong way. I was just ssssoooooo frustrated with the whole situation, not just my dad. I have a hard time understanding how he could let someone keep stealing like this and on top of it, pay more heed to a person, a stranger, who is a drug addict, than his family.

God has got to do it!

Your frustration is understandable, but you're right - God must do it. Having gone through a similar situation to what you describe with a family member, I think part of the 'how he could let ...' lies in the difficulty that we all have in acknowledging that we might have been duped by someone.

Admitting it is, to a large extent, recognizing our own frailty, accepting that we may not be the judge of character that we thought we were. That's always tough; the moreso, I suspect, in one's 'golden years', when we don't want to believe that the wisdom which comes supposedly comes with age could be flawed. It has to be extraordinarily difficult for a parent to become the child of one's children - to be dependent on others.

Prayers continue for the easy resolution of these conflicts, for your Dad to recognize that the loving care and attention of his family is not intended to diminish his stature, but to assist him in preserving his dignity.

Well put Neil!

May the Lord help you in your time of need. My prayers.

I ended up in the hospital. Went to get a prescription refill, and they transported me to the ER Because my pulse was 169. Like everybody else, I don't do well with this much stress. It will usually throw me into AFib, but this time it was tachecardia.

I just don't know how to help him! Thank you ALL for your support. I am going on retreat, be back Monday.

I will be praying for all of you, for the love and compassion you have shown me!

Prayers continuing for you and your family.

"Be still, therefore, and know that I am God, supreme among the nations, supreme on all the earth."

May your retreat lead you, like the holy Prophet Elijah, to discern His still, small voice.

Our prayers will continue. That must have felt terrible...I once had a tachycardia of 120 and that was horrible, I can't imagine 169.

As for your dad, just do what you know is best. I know how emotional it is for you, and how no matter how old we are, we want affirmations from our parents, but you may not get it...I can only imagine how rough it is to have to make decisions for your father alone, while you are still mourning and in your own pain. Hang on, we will help carry your cross in prayer, and Jesus will get you through it.

God bless you, Rose!

With love in Christ,
Alice