Can I borrow this from my library? Thanks for the link to the trailer..it looks quite good.
You say that several generations of your family have been cremated? Has the lift of the ban of cremation in the RC church been for that long?
Let me know what you think of the film.
My grandparents left the Church early in the 1900s. The ban was very much in effect when they died and were cremated, at their request. My father was a fallen away Anglican and always made it clear he wanted his ashes sprinkled in the Yuba River where we camped every summer. Our mother wanted her ashes in a mausoleum like her parents and her sister. I really don't remember ever hearing as a child growing up in the Episcopal Church in the 50's that cremation was wrong although at that time it surely must have not been allowed for them. It was many years later that I came to realize how unusual was my family. I really would have thought well in to my 30s that most Americans chose cremation, not so.
My first (and for perhaps decades my only) funeral experience happened to be my first exposure also to Orthodoxy at the yet not completed local Greek Orthodox Cathedral when I was about 10. The Papu whom I was very close to of my best and very close friend died and his funeral was there. I was in this Cathedral again tonight for Lenten Compline.
I've assisted in many funerals in my Latin parish as an Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion back before I changed canonically to an ECC and only once was the body not present for the Mass, ashes present instead. It may be either that in this parish there continues to be a strong following of not cremating, or it may be that those who choose cremation choose also not to have a funeral Mass.
Years before my move to an Eastern Church my daughter's birth-mother's mother-in-law, one of our daughter's grandmothers (actually younger than me...) died suddenly. She is buried in a Catholic cemetery about half an hour from us and frequent visits to her grave site has been very important to our daughter. It taught me the need of my children to be able to "visit" my grave when that time comes.
I understand that in Greece the dead are exhumed after a few years and their bones washed (in red wine?) & then placed in a charnel house.
When I read some time ago of this practice at least in monasteries I immediately wished this could happen with my body. I don't believe even "green" burial is permitted yet where I live.
Fortunately my mother died in her sleep, while still living an active life in her 90s, and my sister, my son and I all happened to be in her house at the time. We were able to do our own version of preparing her body before we called the mortuary.