I don't know the solution.
The solution is active Moderator oversite, which is one of the blessings of this forum.
Byzcath has remained largely congenial and generally respectful through my five plus years of posting here.
No one overtly attempted to convert this now-former Lutheran clergy, no one disparaged the tradition I was leaving, no one called me the follower of a heretic or demanded that I metaphorically swim a body of water.
The covert conversion through kindness won the day.
A blessed Nativity Feast to all!