Have we become dysfunctional in our thinking and our behavior toward this issue?
This, and other issues as well.
It is part of our fallen nature to seek after what is tangible to us. For some, this can only be worldly success, honors and pleasures--nothing spiritual. For those who have been radically transformed in Christ (i.e. saints), on the other hand, the spiritual reality of the Kingdom of God really is tangible. The rest of us, however, are continually seeking after that which is both spiritual and tangible
This sounds like a bad thing, but really, all our religious practices are just that: tangible expressions of spiritual realities. The key here is that they are visible things that point
to the invisible, tangible things that point
to the intangible. The problem comes in when we confuse the two, and become so attached to the expression that we lose sight of what is being expressed. This is where the expression takes on more importance than properly belongs to it.
At this point, it becomes easy to look at the differences in expression (or tradition) of different Christian groups, and conclude that the others have to be somehow less Christian than we are. We come up with a lot of high-sounding words to "prove" that we're right, but ultimately, we're engaging in dysfunctional thinking.
Marriage of the Hierarchy of East and West (well of The Church) was originally the way the Early Christin Church operated right?
Yes. The practice came to an end when more and more bishops were successfully arranging for their sons to succeed them, thereby keeping the power and prestige (read: worldly benefits) of the office "in the family."
[Oh, I just re-read your question here: "marriage of the hierarchy," meaning ordination of married men--never marriage of ordained men.]
At the same time, monasticism had emerged as a bastion of the true Christian spirit, so it was only natural to select bishops from among their ranks.
I believe THE RUDDER states that a Bishop should be the husband of just one wife and loyal to her ...
The bishop therefore must be without reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, sensible, modest, hospitable, good at teaching; not a drinker, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well, having children in subjection with all reverence; (but if a man doesn't know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the assembly of God?) (1Tim 3:3-5)