St. Seraphim of Sarov says
Prayer, fasting, vigils, and all other Christian practices, however good they may be in themselves, certainly do not constitute the aim of our Christian life: they are but the indispensible means of attaining them.
FOR THE TRUE AIM OF THE CHRISTIAN LIFE IS THE ACQUISITION OF THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD. (emphasis mine)
As for fast, vigils, prayer, and almsgiving, and other good works done in the name of Christ, they are only the means of acquiring the Holy Spirit of God. Note well that it is only good works done in the name of Christ that bring us the fruits of the Holy Spirit.
1. Does my fasting, extra prayer and quiet time, additional attendance at church services, almsgiving, Bible reading, and other other positive and negative mortifications during Lent make me more like Christ? What does it mean to be more like Christ? Am I more loving? More patient? More understanding of my neighbor? More willing not to listen to gossip? To negative reports about another?
2. Has my spiritual growth this Lent made me more likely to forgive first and not hold a grudge? Have I let go of long-held hurts that may have been baggage for me and been dragging my spiritual life down? Has Forgiveness Sunday become for me a way of life or was it something I did then and moved on from?
3. Have I begun to do the hard work of praying for those who REALLY hate me? Who REALLY want to see me fail? Have I forgiven as Jesus did from the Cross--"Father, forgive them; they know not what they do."
4. Have I done one "random act of kindness" for someone who could not repay me in any way? Have I done something kind for another that no one knows about except God, even the one who received my alms?
5. St. John Chrysostom says that it is better to eat meat than to eat the flesh of the brethren. What have I done to build up my parish community this Lent? Am I a "back-biter" who talks behind someone's back to their detriment, to the scandal of others in my faith community and the larger community in which I live?
6. When Pascha arrives will I lose all this changed life and return to being the same person that I was on Forgiveness Sunday? If so , what has Lent meant--REALLY? Do I make an idol of the disciplines I undertake for this Holy Season? An idol that I will cast aside because my heart is not converted, but merely the same fickle one I started Lent with?