The Byzantine Forum
Newest Members
Bludos, MaybeOrientalCath, mrat01, ChildofCyril, Selah
6,202 Registered Users
Who's Online Now
2 members (theophan, Hammerz75), 336 guests, and 116 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Latest Photos
St. Sharbel Maronite Mission El Paso
St. Sharbel Maronite Mission El Paso
by orthodoxsinner2, September 30
Holy Saturday from Kirkland Lake
Holy Saturday from Kirkland Lake
by Veronica.H, April 24
Byzantine Catholic Outreach of Iowa
Exterior of Holy Angels Byzantine Catholic Parish
Church of St Cyril of Turau & All Patron Saints of Belarus
Forum Statistics
Forums26
Topics35,542
Posts417,788
Members6,202
Most Online4,112
Mar 25th, 2025
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 5 of 5 1 2 3 4 5
#46064 10/07/03 10:04 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Dear LatinTrad,

Yes, I'll admit I was a bit annoyed with some Latins yesterday . . . wink

The charge of "heresy" against our Cantor Joseph by PoxTecum set me off.

I raised the issue of annulments to: a) get under some Latin skin; b) try and figure out why some Latins appear to be so smug about their Church when there are obvious problems concerning chasms between theory and practice in it; and c) get under some Latin skin.

Since I obviously succeeded in doing a) and c), I wanted to go back to b).

I'm not suggesting that the Church should change its teaching on annulments, marriage and the like.

Latin traditionalists will attack the Orthodox Church on its teaching and position on annulment and remarriage - but without taking a good hard look at what is happening in their own ecclesial backyard in this respect.

And there are two views on the subject in this thread.

Paul represents the view that the annulments granted in the U.S. are done so legitimately (and I'm not questioning that) on the basis of Church authority.

PoxTecum didn't accept any of that, as he said, "crap" and least of all any of mine in this respect.

He asserted a particular traditionalist Latin view that the bishops and laity who are confecting such annulments are going against the teaching of the Church, are liberals etc. In short, their views and actions on what constitutes grounds for annulment goes against what the Roman Church teaches and tells them to do - an act of disobedience, in short.

LatinTrad agrees, I believe, with PoxTecum insofar as he doesn't agree with what the U.S. bishops are confecting in this regard.

But, in all honesty, we really have to disregard the traditionalist Latin view here insofar as it appears to be attacking its own church on this score.

Paul is right in this - we can only go with what the U.S. bishops are allowing here.

To say otherwise is to go against one's own episcopal authority, which is intolerable from a Catholic point of view.

At the same time, it is clear that the "bar" so to speak on what is accepted by Roman Catholic Church authorities to allow an annulment is now "higher" than at other times.

It would appear that the Church, at least locally and here in particular, has shifted the grounds for annulments and this is even seen in the large number of annulments that are being granted each year where Latin Catholics are getting their previous marriages annulled and are then getting married to another partner.

My point here is that I don't see much difference between THIS practice and the practice of the Orthodox Church with respect to annulling marriages to allow a future marriage to another partner.

This was my way of going after Latin triumphalism that expresses itself in this way: The Catholic Church is better than Orthodoxy because it teaches the indissolubility of marriage.

If the bishops of the Catholic Church allow annulments, and I'm not questioning their right to do so as they see fit, I think this practice does impact on the teaching of the Church on the indissolubility of marriage.

It is insufficient to say that the bishops are in error and that if Rome had any say etc.

The point is that Catholics on this continent are obtaining annulments, and in larger numbers than ever before, with the consent and approval of the Church and are getting married to other partners.

That is my point. The fact that there is more than one Latin view on this situation here speaks for itself as well.

Both Roman CAtholic and Orthodox Churches annul marriages and allow for "remarriage" or however one wishes to call it.

Also, my point on the Blessed Charlemagne was not to teach the obvious.

PoxTecum's use of "Most Christian King" I think it was, suggested, at least to me it did, that he wasn't taking that epithet seriously in connection with Charlemagne.

As a student of his age, I just wanted to offer a brief defence of him.

If I misunderstood the intention in the use of those parentheses, I apologise.

Again, to want to defend a saint, even if I was mistaken in assuming that his name was being in any way impugned, is not a vice. At least the Church doesn't believe so.

LatinTrad, it is always good to converse with you here!

Alex

#46065 10/07/03 10:57 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Alex,

Your post is well reasoned.

I hope you folks can stand some more Latin teaching on the subject. If not skip this post.

No triumphalism here. I'm just stating RC teaching on declarations of nullity (I really don't like the term annullment. It is not canonical and is misleading as to the nature of the process).

I am told that the reason the number of DON's
has sky rocketed is that one crucial aspect of contracting a valid marriage, consent, is now probed with much deeper scrutiny then in the old days. That is why marriage preparation classes are required and a detailed questionaire must be completed by the prospective bride and groom. The questionaire must be completed in writing and orally answered to a representative of the church.
Parents of the bride and groom must also fill out a questionaire and give oral answers from it. Each party must be intervied privately to ensure that they are allowed privacy to answers the questions without undue pressure from the parties involved.

Consent is not the only criteria to enter into sacramental marriage, but it is an important one, especially when the marriage ends in divorce and the DON process is initiated to determine if the marriage was valid on the wedding day.

I recommend the the requrements that make up consent be studied by anyone that wants to understand why some marriages are invalid and a DON may be granted by the Church.

Yes, I do believe that there may be improper DON's, but I have no first hand knowledge to substatiate that claim.

Your brother in Christ and Mary,

Paul

#46066 10/07/03 11:13 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Dear Paul,

I don't question the validity of what the Latin Church in the U.S. is doing in this respect and I don't condemn it.

All this is tricky ground, best handled by theologians and bishops.

Alex

#46067 10/07/03 11:19 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
When my wife and I went through the questionaire and interview process before our marriage it was a sobering experience for me (more like scary). Now I tell my bride that we could never get a DON. We went into the marriage with both eyes open!! We're stuck for life smile .

A good priest interviewed us, our parents and the best man and maid of honor.

Paul

#46068 10/07/03 11:38 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 26,405
Likes: 38
Dear Paul,

Yes, I believe that marriages themselves never break down - only our will to swallow our pride, forgive one another and learn to love again.

As our priest said, "If you think there is no love in your marriage - MAKE LOVE THEN!"

My wife is my friend and adviser. When we work around the house, she is my contractor and foreman.

There is nothing she could say to me or do to me that would ever make me stop loving her.

Alex

#46069 10/07/03 11:44 AM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Dear Alex,

May the Lord Jesus Christ who worked wonders at the wedding feast at Cana, by the intercession of His Holy mother, bless you and your bride.
+ In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Paul

#46070 10/13/03 02:47 PM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 106
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 106
Quote
Originally posted by Orthodox Catholic:


The question is - I am especially interested what our Latin friends would say to this - to what extent have annulments become the RC form of divorce in North America?

Is it not a direct contradiction for the Roman Catholic Church to say it is against divorce and remarriage - and then to have a back-door policy in this respect by way of annulments?
...

Pax Vobiscum,

Alex [/QB]
I agree. It's something the RC hierarchy has allowed in recent decades where it (IMO) has become more liberal.


"Where Peter is, there is the Church." - St. Ambrose
#46071 10/13/03 04:23 PM
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407
M
Member
Member
M Offline
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 407
Slava Isusu Christu!

Friends,

One thing that popped into my mind this weekend regarding the issue of annulments in the United States and the seemingly candy store mentality that the RC bishops dole them out in was the fact that maybe many of these annulled marriages were, in fact, rightly anulled because of the lackadasical attitude people seem to take towards marriage these days. It's disturbing at how many people, Catholics included, view marriage not as a covenant and a sacrament, but with a "until you get sick of me" attitude instead of "til death do us part" mentality. Are these "marriages" really true sacramental marriages in the first place? Do the parties involved really mean to give themselves to one another fully and request God's grace to do so? Or are they merely looking for a means to shack up in a more socially acceptable way, as opposed to truly entering a marriage covenant? If so, would that not make these unions "defective"?

Just a question.

In Christ,
mikey.

#46072 10/13/03 05:46 PM
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Member
Member
Joined: Nov 2001
Posts: 1,252
Ditto Mikey,

The new model for marriage for many including American Catholics is to have several marriages in a lifetime. A few years with this person then a few years with the next person.

Sounds like it was adopted from the Hollywood crowd, doesn't it?

Paul

#46073 10/18/03 12:33 AM
Joined: Feb 2002
Posts: 2,505
Member
Member
Joined: Feb 2002
Posts: 2,505
Dear Orthodox Catholic and other Brethren,
Lets be clear about what an Annulment is, it is a declaration by the the Church that for certain cononical, physical, or psychological reasons a marriage never took place.
One therefore is "not" free to marry "again" as some see it, but to actually enter into marriage for the first time.

In years of pastoral practice I have seen only a few cases where a person did not have a case and no annulement was given because they were in a valid marriage.

There are no abuses of annulements on the part of the Church. Maybe some people have succeded in "hoodwinking" the Church, but we will have to leave them to God, the God whom can neither deceive nor be deceived.

Stephanos I

Page 5 of 5 1 2 3 4 5

Moderated by  theophan 

Link Copied to Clipboard
The Byzantine Forum provides message boards for discussions focusing on Eastern Christianity (though discussions of other topics are welcome). The views expressed herein are those of the participants and may or may not reflect the teachings of the Byzantine Catholic or any other Church. The Byzantine Forum and the www.byzcath.org site exist to help build up the Church but are unofficial, have no connection with any Church entity, and should not be looked to as a source for official information for any Church. All posts become property of byzcath.org. Contents copyright - 1996-2025 (Forum 1998-2025). All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0