Hi All, I was interested in the tangent on the Christian-non-Christian muslim thread,but didn't dare risk Alice's righteous wrath with another digression.
Sometimes elderly people prefer not to live with family members. This society is very different,and this is not necessarily a bad thing,from Mediterranean and other cultures. There are also negatives to all that close living too, (India's infamous mother in laws from hell is one example)
Ignored elderly people sometimes deserve what they get.Harsh but true. If you bully,ignore or treat children or grands badly, they may take you in but only as a duty. I have only one grandparent that I would have willingly wanted to live with us,and fact is, I would have had to fight with my other cousins for the privilege. I'd never have let the others suffer,but it would taken a hefty dose of Christian love to survive living with them.
My family and friends do take care of their elderly,sometimes out of real love and affection,but mainly out of duty. I don't know these people who supposedly completely ignore their elderly.Immigrants always complain about Americans putting their elderly in nursing homes,but in most cases that is the best that can be done.